Is planning sex a good idea?
Unfortunately, the answer to this question is not so straightforward; it depends on how you do it and what you and your partner enjoy. It’s important not to lose the romance. Of course, you shouldn’t schedule sex the same way you schedule food shopping; that’s definitely not the intention. However, sometimes, with a busy life, sex can end up being neglected, and that’s also not desirable. In this article, we’ll explain how you can approach the subject: Should you or shouldn’t you schedule sex?
Make time for each other
It’s important to schedule time for each other. One suggestion is to have a designated ‘date night’ every Wednesday, for example. Of course, this can sometimes be challenging, depending on your work schedule or if you need to arrange childcare. However, you can also do this after the children go to bed. The key is to consciously make time for each other. While you may spend time together at home, you often end up doing your own thing. You could watch a movie, go out for dinner, or enjoy a cosy meal at home together. Often, you’ll find that this can already create a romantic atmosphere, and the rest will naturally follow. Setting aside dedicated time for each other is truly important. And let’s be honest, a ‘date night’ sounds fun and breaks up the week in your schedule!
If you find it helpful, you can plan it
For some couples, it works well to plan sex. This varies for everyone, but it may work for you. For some people, it becomes something to look forward to and anticipate. So, you can give it a try, but make sure it doesn’t become an obligation. It shouldn’t be a situation where you or your partner feel forced to do it against your will because sex should be enjoyable.
Don’t compare yourself to others
Lastly, it’s crucial not to compare yourself to others or let it affect you. Everyone’s sex life is different, and comparing yourself to others can make you feel insecure or give you the sense that you’re doing something wrong. You might even hear comments suggesting that you’re having too much or too little sex. Remember that it’s perfectly fine and healthy for it to be different for everyone. Make sure that you have a sex life that brings happiness to both you and your partner. If you’re unsatisfied with it, you can try improving it by scheduling more ‘date nights’ or experimenting with planned sex!